Archive for July, 2008

Ah, shucks! I’m speechless!

July 9, 2008

Jan of Jan’s Sushi Bar has given me my first blog award, an Arte y Pico, which is Spanish for, um, something nice, I hope. Actually, she says, it’s a Spanish-language “style and substance blog” award. A nice compliment from an excellent blogger and Web designer.

Thanks! I’ll be aglow all day!

In keeping with the rules of the award, I hereby pass the honor on to:

ByJane (who probably already has one)

Granny Sue

Maison Montmartre

My Open Wallet

Ask Allison

Interesting bloggers and blogsites, all!

Update: Oops. Forgot to post the rules, which are:

1) You must choose 5 blogs that you consider deserve this award for creativity, design, interesting material, and contribution to the blogging community, regardless of language.

2) You must publish the name of each award-winning author as well as a link to his or her blog.

3) Each award-winner must post a picture of the award and link back to the blog that has given the award.

4) Both the giver and the recipient of the award must link to the “Arte y Pico” blog, so everyone will know the origin of this award.

5) You must post these rules.

About blogging: Blogging for dollars?

July 8, 2008

I’m such a ninny. I was weeks into setting up and tweaking my infant blog on WordPress when I discovered that there were blogsites out there THAT WERE ACTUALLY MAKING MONEY! What a concept! For example, Problogger admits to a six-figure salary from his efforts, and he’s just one among millions, likely.

I have pondered this fact ever since then, even signing up for the Amazon Associates program along the way, although, between the inscrutable WordPress restrictions and my Mac, I haven’t exactly been able to get it to work. (And since my site didn’t turn into a book blog like I initially thought it would, I probably wouldn’t make much off the Amazon link anyway.)

I have no problem with blogs containing advertising, although I don’t think I’ve ever clicked on any ad. (Sorry.) My friend’s daughter, a Mommyblogger, makes a nice little part-time income and gets lots of fun freebies for promoting products on her site, which allows her to stay home with her toddlers. I think that’s great, and so do all the other young mothers who regularly visit her blog. She’s very up front about what she does, and she also regularly files posts that don’t advertise or promote anything.

Thanks to all of you who have kindly mentioned my site and included me on your blogrolls. I’ve tried to reciprocate. But I’ve recently run into a few blogs in my interest areas that offer to promote my blog on their more-trafficked sites — for a fee. They even provide a PayPal link to facilitate the transaction.

Maybe I was a journalist for too many years, but that idea BOTHERS me. Believe me, I’m not naive. I know how public relations and lobbying can make whores of even the most respected individuals and publications. But I somehow want to hold the Blogosphere above all that. It’s the wide-open and free-from-influence side of the Web that appeals to me and made me want to join the party, and I guess I expect some honesty from the sites I visit — and from myself when I post something.

Advertising in widgets and at breaks is one thing, but giving a thumbs-up to somebody’s site because he or she paid you to crosses the line for me.

Am I being too squeamish? Naive? Impractical? And just exactly how honest is the Blogosphere?

Adventures at Midlife: End-of-life anguish

July 8, 2008

One of the darker tasks associated with the midlife years is coping with aging parents. I know my siblings and I were not as well prepared as we thought we were when faced with Mother’s two-year decline and death several years ago. Fortunately we had a sympathetic home health and hospice organization that provided some splendid care for her and some much-appreciated counsel for us when it came time to make the hard decisions.

For those of us in such straits, the NYTimes has just launched an excellent and well-received blog, The New Old Age, featuring writer Jane Gross, who recently experienced the death of her elderly mother and who writes on a variety of eldercare issues, including a recent post on what she’d do differently. Read the rest of this entry »

Dara Torres rocks!

July 7, 2008

In case you’ve been living under a rock or partied a little too hard this weekend, the big news on the sports scene (besides Federer getting whomped by Nadal and the Williams sisters’ show at Wimbledon) is 41-year-old swimming sensation Dara Torres, who has qualified for her fifth Olympics by breaking the American record in the 50-meter freestyle. At 41! And after retiring four years ago and having a baby!

In his interview with her this morning, Matt Lauer of the Today Show (after admitting that, after 40, his knees began hurting him) prodded her about the possibility of performance-enhancing drugs contributing to her remarkable record. Her response? No way. Bring on the blood and urine tests, she said, vowing to provide ample proof that she’s clean.

She attributed her success to a great team of coaches, trainers and advisers, which is probably very true. You don’t get to be an athlete at that elite level without a small army of caretakers. And I’m sure that doesn’t come cheap. But she is the current poster child for the movement promoting health and fitness at any age.

You go, girl! I’m suddenly a whole lot more interested in watching the Olympics than I was last week. And I’m dusting off my walking shoes!

Adventures at Midlife: The rich are different

July 3, 2008

Liz Smith maintains that the only way to get old or sick or to retire is to have money. “I don’t think anybody can retire without money anymore, and it’s going to be proven now, in spades, with all of these people retiring,” says the legendary New York Post entertainment columnist in a group interview on wowowow.

The discussion itself is a trip, with Smith and fellow A-list (and aging) media mavens Jane Wagner, Judith Martin and Mary Wells discussing the possibilities of going to Germany for stem cell treatments, taking 200 “life-extension” vitamins a day and outliving their retirement incomes. I’d like to believe it was all tongue-in-cheek, but considering these women’s portfolios, I’m not convinced. They make bigger salaries, and likely pay less taxes, than anyone in my social set. (This type of post may be why I took wowowow off my blogroll. I just couldn’t relate.) Read the rest of this entry »

Adventures at Midlife: Winding up alone

July 2, 2008

Over 30 and not married? Adelle Waldman feels your pain. In an article in More Intelligent Life, she endorses Lori Gottleib’s controversial Atlantic piece that advocated, in the absence of Mr. Right, settling for Mr. Good Enough.

If I had read her essay five years ago, I would have been scornful [says Waldman]. Now, I’m 31 and a lot more sympathetic. I’m no longer able to write her off as one of those bitter marriage-crazed women I was sure I’d never be…

The truth about turning 30 is that the question of marriage, and by extension dating, becomes much more angst-ridden… Dating, however little fun you thought it was in your 20s, becomes even more fraught. It is not just heartbreak over a particular guy or general loneliness that keeps you up at night. Those will still be there, but on top there will be a new worry, the one about winding up alone.

Waldman is speaking wisdom beyond her years, because she sounds like my 50-something single friends. Read the rest of this entry »

Bloglist update

July 1, 2008

I realized that I didn’t have those two nutcases at Midlife Gals on my blog Hall of Fame. What a breath of fresh air — and you get two for the price of one! Maybe one of these days I’ll figure out how to get video clips on my blog like the rest of you clever things. One step at a time.